Admittedly, a checklist is not a romantic, poetic or philosophically gratifying way of finding your ability as a person or even defining love; but you will see that it does effectively capture love and uncover its many layers of meaning. Let's see if love is really blind,or if you know how to recognize it.
1. You feel completely comfortable with him.
2. You feel his happiness is as important as your own.
3. You accept and like him as he is and are not secretly thinking of completely remodeling him after you have him hooked.
4. You know it is safe to entrust all of yourself to him.
5. You respect him.
6. You think his body is unique and wonderful.
7. You're certain that he likes, trusts and respects you.
8. You are able to tell him about all your anger, hurt, anxiety and dissatisfaction.
9. There is a strong bond between you.
10. He rarely bores you.
11. You don't depend on him to make you happy. You are already a well-balanced person who knows that the person you love will enhance your happiness but that only you can make yourself happy or unhappy, a clinging or strong individual.
If you said, "Yes, this is the way I love" (or intend to love)," and "Yes, this is the way I expect the person I love to love me," then you can be confident that you can recognize real love when you see it.
1. You feel completely comfortable with him.
2. You feel his happiness is as important as your own.
3. You accept and like him as he is and are not secretly thinking of completely remodeling him after you have him hooked.
4. You know it is safe to entrust all of yourself to him.
5. You respect him.
6. You think his body is unique and wonderful.
7. You're certain that he likes, trusts and respects you.
8. You are able to tell him about all your anger, hurt, anxiety and dissatisfaction.
9. There is a strong bond between you.
10. He rarely bores you.
11. You don't depend on him to make you happy. You are already a well-balanced person who knows that the person you love will enhance your happiness but that only you can make yourself happy or unhappy, a clinging or strong individual.
If you said, "Yes, this is the way I love" (or intend to love)," and "Yes, this is the way I expect the person I love to love me," then you can be confident that you can recognize real love when you see it.
However, if you answered any of these with no or not yet, then you might be hypnotized or infatuated or involved in a relationship that is not going anywhere.
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